How to not hate your significant other while traveling

 Tivoli!

Tivoli!

Want to hear a funny story? My husband Alex and I were traveling in Taiwan. It was near the end of our trip and we were both exhausted. We were at the Chiang Kai-shek memorial and he flat-tired me so I glared at him. And so began WWIII. We were so mad at each other!

We continued to bicker until we got back to our Airbnb. I couldn't stand looking at him for one second longer, so I went to shut myself in the bathroom. I forgot that we had accidentally booked a weird Airbnb that happened to have a glass bathroom. So after I slammed the door, Alex just waved at me from the other side of the glass because we were still face-to-face!

 This picture will live in infamy. 

This picture will live in infamy. 

You really get to know people while traveling, which can be good for a relationship or very very bad for it. You are in stressful situations together but also experiencing new and amazing things together. It's normal living elevated. 

Here are my top five tips for ending a trip without ending your marriage.

1) Never let yourselves get both hungry AND tired at the same time. That was our mistake in Taiwan. We kept sightseeing through dinner when we were already tired. If one tank is empty, fill the other. So if you can't get food, take a rest. If you are trying to fight jet lag, make sure you are eating enough.

 Warning: a good sense of direction is only partially useful in Italy's winding streets!

Warning: a good sense of direction is only partially useful in Italy's winding streets!

2) Have a clear set of duties. For example, I like to plan the trip and Alex likes to navigate when we get there. This way we feel like we are both contributing. Neither part of the couple feels like they are doing the work or like they are being dragged everywhere without giving their input.

3) Take turns choosing things to do. I want to see the Barbie museum so I must accompany him to the Ferrari factory. Don't let one person choose every single activity!

4) Have a budget decided on beforehand for the day. This saves you from many little arguments throughout the day every time your spouse wants to stop for gelato. Four times a day for Alex, I kid you not. 

 Self-timer: good for romantic shots!

Self-timer: good for romantic shots!

5) Take time away from each other! In real life (not on vacation) you spend time away from each other. One thing that Alex and I like to do is have designated phone time when we hit wifi or my personal favorite, a reading meal. We both bring our books and read as we eat at a restaurant. No talking allowed. 

6) Ok I said 5, but your last tip is to travel with Alex. He is the best and most thoughtful travel partner in the whole world, even if he does blow all our money on ice cream.

Happy Valentine's Day everyone! Don't forget to take advantage of GG's deal today. Romantic getaway budget estimates for only $5! No booking required. 

 He literally just walked by me eating ice cream as I am typing this.

He literally just walked by me eating ice cream as I am typing this.

Please throw away your giant suitcase

Travel Tip Numero Uno: Get rid of that huge suitcase. You know the one. It's too huge to fit down any airplane aisles. Toss it. Or use it to store Christmas stuff, I don't care just do NOT take it with you. 

"But I'm going for two weeks, how will I fit everything??" You will. Trust me. You just need to pack better and possibly do laundry once.

Here's what will happen if you take your giant suitcase with you:

  1. You will likely have to pay extra baggage fees.
  2. You will not fit down any train aisles.
  3. You will not be able to store your luggage in a locker while exploring cities.
  4. You will have to heft it up and down stairs unless you are rich and can hire someone to do it for you.
  5. You will be sorry.

Less is more when gallivanting off around the world! So do yourself a favor and pack light.